Control 90% of the life
Date：3, 8, 2018Hits：0
American social psychologist festinger, there is a famous law, namely \"festinger law\" : 10% of life is made up, what happens to you while the other 90% is by reacting to what happened to you.In other words, 10% of the things in life is what we cannot control, while the other 90% is we can control.
Festinger in book illustrates with an example.Mr. Ding in the morning after getting up, wash gargle, conveniently at the edge of wash gargle, high-grade watch their wife afraid it get wet by water, just pick the past on the table.Son wake up on the table to take bread, accidentally met will watch broke on the ground.Mr. Ding love watches, according to his son's ass beat.Then the black face to scold his wife.Wife defy spirit, say fear of water wet your watch.Mr. Ding said that his watch is waterproof.So the two of them violently dou mouth.Aggravated Mr. Ding didn't eat breakfast, drove to the company directly, quickly to the company suddenly remembered forgot your briefcase, and go home at once.But no one in the home, the wife go to work, son to go to the school, Mr. Dean left the keys in the briefcase, he couldn't get into the door, so we have to make a phone call to his wife to the key.Wife when heading home in a panic, and knocked down the side of the road fruit vendors, vendor took her don't let her go, want her to compensation, she had to pay a sum of money to get rid of.After obtaining a briefcase to the door is opening, Mr. Ding has 15 minutes late, got a boss severely criticized, Mr. Ding's mood bad to the extreme.Before coming off work for a small matter, had a quarrel with your colleagues.Wife is due to leave early be deduct full-attendance bonus that month, the day to participate in the baseball game, son title is expected to be originally, but played poorly because of bad mood, and were eliminated in the first inning.
In this case, the watch was broken is 10%.Behind a series of things the other 90%.Is because the parties did not control well the 90%, led to this day as \"annoying day\".Imagine, Mr. Ding in the 10%, if in a kind of reaction.For example, to comfort his son: "never mind, son, watch broke that's ok, I take it to repaired."Such son, happy wife is happy, his own mood, so then everything would not have happened.Visible, you can't control the previous 10%, but can through your mindset and behavior determine the remaining 90%.
In real life, often hear people complain: I how so unlucky, every day there are always some bad things around me, don't let me stop saying a good mood, who can help me?This is a question of attitude.Can actually help their own, not others but yourself.If understand and able to skillfully use "festinger law doing things", all problems are solved.
Festinger in book illustrates with an example.Mr. Ding in the morning after getting up, wash gargle, conveniently at the edge of wash gargle, high-grade watch their wife afraid it get wet by water, just pick the past on the table.Son wake up on the table to take bread, accidentally met will watch broke on the ground.Mr. Ding love watches, according to his son's ass beat.Then the black face to scold his wife.Wife defy spirit, say fear of water wet your watch.Mr. Ding said that his watch is waterproof.So the two of them violently dou mouth.Aggravated Mr. Ding didn't eat breakfast, drove to the company directly, quickly to the company suddenly remembered forgot your briefcase, and go home at once.But no one in the home, the wife go to work, son to go to the school, Mr. Dean left the keys in the briefcase, he couldn't get into the door, so we have to make a phone call to his wife to the key.Wife when heading home in a panic, and knocked down the side of the road fruit vendors, vendor took her don't let her go, want her to compensation, she had to pay a sum of money to get rid of.After obtaining a briefcase to the door is opening, Mr. Ding has 15 minutes late, got a boss severely criticized, Mr. Ding's mood bad to the extreme.Before coming off work for a small matter, had a quarrel with your colleagues.Wife is due to leave early be deduct full-attendance bonus that month, the day to participate in the baseball game, son title is expected to be originally, but played poorly because of bad mood, and were eliminated in the first inning.
In this case, the watch was broken is 10%.Behind a series of things the other 90%.Is because the parties did not control well the 90%, led to this day as \"annoying day\".Imagine, Mr. Ding in the 10%, if in a kind of reaction.For example, to comfort his son: "never mind, son, watch broke that's ok, I take it to repaired."Such son, happy wife is happy, his own mood, so then everything would not have happened.Visible, you can't control the previous 10%, but can through your mindset and behavior determine the remaining 90%.
In real life, often hear people complain: I how so unlucky, every day there are always some bad things around me, don't let me stop saying a good mood, who can help me?This is a question of attitude.Can actually help their own, not others but yourself.If understand and able to skillfully use "festinger law doing things", all problems are solved.
